gavra_at_work: good point! Thats why i mentioned the rebbitzen should go over and not any other woman. A rebbitzen would know how to tell her the halacha in a gentle but firm manner. Whereas if i were to go over to a fellow congregant and gently but firmly say somehting, it would come across as “confrontational bluntness”. If a rebbitzen goes over and gently but firmly say something, it would come across as “gentle bluntness”.
by the way, what does WADR stand for?