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To a large extent men are taught that it’s not manly to cry thus crying is not an option and whenever tears could come the emotion is quickly and forcibly squashed. There are men who can cry and I think that a man who can feel others pain and cry for them is actually a very special and mature person. If you read about how the gadolim of previous generations daven ed and if you read seforim about the inyan of tefillah they all talk about crying to Hashem in tefillah. So it’s quite normal for a Frum male to cry and I think there’s a lot of value on working on yourself to the point that you can get so emotional by tefillah that you can cry if you so choose to. Granted some guys here may have no clue what I am talking about but I can say from personal experience that one can teach himself to come in touch with his emotions to the point that he can cry and be OK with it.