RuffRuff:
“I see that the current western attitude was already adopted by us. You hear this talk of uncontrollable men, only the women are stable, all men this, all men that, yeah that’s a man… I would say that it’s actually the other way around. Women are more vulnerable, and are easier to fall pray to someone trying to get her. While the Nisayon for a man is instant and all over, the danger for a woman is deeper and with bigger consequences.”
True, a woman developing a relationship with another man is much more dangerous long-term then a man seeing inappropriate images of other women. However, the initial pull of inappropriate images is far, far stronger than that of a chat-room (or of kefira). Therefore, women tend to have an easier time initially controlling themselves than men do.
That said, the best idea is always the one-two punch: Have an internet filter (such as K9, available free online) that only the wife has the password to, and have a second program that records a history of every site the computer goes on and sends it to a respected third party (Rav, Rebbi, etc.) for them to go through.