Reply To: Getting the other to say no

It’s interesting that there are two distinct groups of responses here. My hypothesis is that if you ONLY do shidduch dating, you think that this is an okay thing to do.

If you’re a bit more liberal, and occasionally date in ways that are out of the box, but usually use the system, you think it is not great but understandable.

If you occasionally use shidduch dating, or are very involved in the dating process, than thinking of the reactions of 4 different parties is a bit strange to you, and of course it’s a horrible idea because any ethical person would just be honest.