Reply To: Getting the other to say no

DY is explaining my position far better than I could at the moment.

Nevertheless, I wouldn’t do it because I believe shidduchim come from Shamayim and my hishtadlus is to always tell the truth and not mislead people. In this case, this would cause me some wasted time, but that’s worth it for me to be a person who is honest.

But I agree with DY that it is not really unethical, and I wouldn’t judge someone else who did this.