WIY, if you constantly give in a non personal relationship then you are right. If you give as a freind and it’s not appreciated then you become burnt. Not because one is focused on getting the thank you’s but because people have an intrinsic need to be appreciated (no frum people are not expected to get some appreciation – the minute they turn OTD and cry that they were never appreciated then it’s a different story).
Obviously if you are not up to the task dont get involved. Nobody says you have to be involved with OTD kids if you dont have what it takes.
I was going to try to stop being so abrasive, but you make it hard for me. HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO REPEAT MYSELF THAT I’M NOT INVOLVED NOR DO I WISH TO BE INVOLVED WITH OTD’S?
I was acting with my freind as a FREIND. And a freind expects appreciation (most do anyway). And I ended that relationship (as did my other freinds) because we were being taken adavantage of.