Philosopher:
I dont think its possible to simultaneously love someone and not respect them.
If you truly love someone you respect them. Additionally, if you disrespect someone you have no chance of bringing them back to Yiddishkeit.
Imagine if all the people who work with teens at risk disrespected the kids. Would they help even 1 kid?
You cant disrespect others. The only people you can disrespect are people who are choteh umachti es harabbim. But even those people, you have to know where the Choteh umachti is coming from. Is it because he never learned and doesnt know anything? Or is he stam a Krummeh mentch who thinks he can outsmart G-d?