Eclipse,
I think I once wrote to you before (under my previous s/n a”h) there can be nice men too, of all ages. You’ll meet up with this pure “SELFISH” guy, intent at perfecting his character, his middas hachesed, he’ll end up using you for his goal. Pure selfishness! After all most opportunities of bestowing chesed, untold times, again and again, are with one’s spouse. He’ll couple with you for that purpose, to have someone to bestow chesed, to brighten someone’s life, to cheer, to make someone close and dear happy – ??? ???? ?????.