Worked out OK in the end. And thats the most important thing. Was 27 years ago. We have grandchildren now, BH. That shadchan is our favorite uncle. He was an elementary school rebbe of mine and my wife’s uncle. He has loads of successful Shidduchim to his credit and his daughter is one of the most successful shadchanim in the yeshivishe market in North America over the last 8-10 years. So I’d say their process works. He spoke to my in laws to make sure she was ready. Maybe my in laws over communicated to my wife in trying to determine exactly where she is holding. But I love them anyway.
Flexibility is one of the most important traits to have to maintain long term social relationships, whether marraige, family, business or whatever. Both she and I, and yes her family too, have worked our entire lives to be flexible. So now, when someone “steals my thunder” no one will die over it. It was a day of great simcha, all was forgiven, and we now have a nice story to post in the coffee room!