I had discussed with the shadchan that I was gonna propose that night. So he told her my plans. When she got in the car that night, she said YES, before I have had a chance to pop the question! SO I told her to hold that thought, we went out to eat and then to the place I planned to ask. By then it was somewhat anti-climatic. At least back in the olden days when that happened, we did have time to savor it ourselves, as no one had cellphones back then!!”
And THIS is why the shadchan should be completely out of the entire inyan once the couple is dating….