semisrael:
No one said you should disbelieve lashon horah. You should not be mekabel it. You are not obligated to trust or distrust anyone. However, there are times when the tests of truth have been passed. It is stupid to still insist that it is not true. The example of several of the recent tragic reports of abuse is apropos. People wished to disbelieve even after proof and confessions, and chose to pervert the Chazal dictate of ?? ??? ???? as the basis for their folly. You can choose to disbelieve information that has not been proven, but ?? ??? ???? has nothing to do with that. Again, go through the countless examples of ?? ??? ???? that grace the pages of Shas and Midrash. The true translation of the words of Chazal is obvious. I am not telling anyone to accept lashon horah.