pba- i thought of that before i posted. the answer is poshut- that is the nature of the nisayon. just to explain before i explain, ill give a hakdamah. in the thread a few weeks ago where this debate started, the hanachah was agreed upon by both sides that these two yitzrei hara are two sides of a coin. in other words, a man wants to look and a woman wants to be seen/appreciated. accordingly, the very nature of the way the nisayon presents itself cant be a cop out. a womans nisayon isnt while locked in her bedroom, it’s to be seen on the street. a mans nisayon is to see her there, and look, or look away. the fact that the womans strength in this area can be judged by those around her, fakert; it has to be factored in and still be not be overcome. hu raya this is possible is that there are many frum women who know people are judging them and cant help it. on this hanachah we say that if you take a poll, men will be oiver more often.
ill type this over more clearly when i sober up