To be clear, I would never ask for a number in terms of weight ever. Sorry, if that was unclear, I would only ask height. 1xx, does not mean 100 lbs, it meant fill in that last two digits. I agree with everything you say about different weights looking different, it’s like that for guys too. Even guys of the same height, same weight, totally different look.I appreciate your honesty and I understand where you’re coming from.
I’ll counter with my honesty, and say that I’m short and slim. I am tired of hearing people (the women in my family mainly who are heavy for the most part) tell me that I shouldn’t judge based on external appearances and I should look inside. I do very much look inside but I couldn’t marry a girl much bigger than me. I care so much about middos and inner beauty, but don’t I have the right to be the Big Man on Campus in my own home?I’m tired of always being smaller and shorter than everyone I am around and I’d like it if in my own home I was the bigger person. I don’t mean to be harsh, but telling me to throw looks out the window annoys me so much. I guess I have my own place of angst too.
You should not worry about being nixed before it starts because most guy often admit that they’re perfectly fine with heavier girls and prefer girls who don’t look like supermodels. It’s just the same as being nixed for going to XYZ seminary. I do meet girls to see if she is pretty in my eyes, and I’ve gone on dates with girls who had at least 80+ lbs on me and I was a gentleman and a joy all the way through.