Reply To: Do boys really have the upper hand in shidduchim?

ws: Sorry, if I’m not being clear. You are correct in that people have different standards and do generally try to be “nice”, which is why I don’t trust a random reference, and (partly) why I don’t ask the question. But I DO ask the person initially suggesting the shidduch to me. It is usually mentioned before I can ask and generally I know how to gauge the accuracy of their description because I know the person redting. BUT if her looks aren’t brought up, you can be sure that I WILL ask. You are right that in terms of pretty, gorgeous, beautiful, cute it’s all very vague and objective, but if a girl is 1xx+ lbs, that’s not objective, and I won’t go out with her, or if she’s above 5″x I won’t go out with her either and I’ll definitely ask about height.