Reply To: Possible solution to the shidduch crisis

while you make an excellent point, i think you are stereotyping too much. First of all, not every girl is so sensitive that she will break down crying every time that she is rejected. Someone who is ready to date, when they are mature enough to accept rejection, and know that they are still the same amazing person before someone rejected them. This problem doesn’t solve anything, because after the first date he can also say no, and then she’ll be as, or even more rejected as she was before they went out. We can not hold ourselves back from doing things because someone’s feelings will get hurt, because chances are they can get hurt anyways after a few dates. The only solution to that is be a mature dater, who is ready to accept rejection, because that is part of the package.

Also, another small point, maybe boys won’t be so quick to say no to a girl if they aren’t the ones having the upper hand anymore. Maybe in the beginning the results would stay the same but over time, maybe something can change. Only Hashem knows….