Sam2, my husband has a close friend who is very frum and has an attraction to both genders that is making him miserable. He wants his homosexual attraction to just go away, but so far he has been unsuccessful. He is in his late twenties and refuses shidduchim, because he doesn’t think it is fair to any woman for him to marry her and still have these thoughts about men. It has driven him into a deep depression such that it is even difficult for him to hold down a job. He hates himself. I so wish there was something we could do for him.
That sounds really horrible.
But I’m not sure I get why he doesn’t just marry a woman. So he’ll desire other men–but to no greater an extent than all married men can also desire other women. Why is his situation so different than all men?
Is it any different than if I like pizza and he likes pizza and also hamburgers, but each of us can still only eat once?