pixelate:
One must never be ???? ??? ????, we learn that from the Haftorah of this coming week. ?”? DO NOT wish any harm on yourself (or any other Jew).
As to your question “Why them, not me?”, obviously HaShem chose to keep you alive, for a VERY IMPORTANT REASON. You have a mission to accomplish, a specific mission that only you can fulfill, no one else.
Furthermore, as long as a person is alive he/she has potential. We can reach the sky (or further), we can become what HaShem had in mind for us to be. As long as there is living breath in a person, he/she can strive for greatness. For shleimus.
No, we might not be famous stars, from the shining greats of our nation. We may not be noticed by our own neighbors. However each and every one of us is a SHINING STAR to HaShem. ???? ???? ??????? ????? ???? ????. Each “star” a particular name, identity, “chashivus”. That should be enough to be ????? ?????? ??.
Live. Breathe. And reach for the stars!!