Grow up Already, Toi and others: from the items that you mention , you can see how ludicrous the uncompromising stand of some chareidis is. Charlehall wrote eloquently abou the (non) halachic issues that you mention, Not only are they insignificant (no mincah on time? hsve you learned hilchos krias sheam and wha the Poalim do?)but they are in total contrast to the truth (how many photos do we have of jews davening in talis and tefillin even as they are preparing for battle?). You bring up the non-mehadrim food- well, which hechsher are you talking about? Badatz? Chassam Sofer? Agudah? And can’t you even eat cheese, eggs, bread? Preposterous.
Anyway- I am not here to go through the whole litany of arguments. Can there be improvement? Of course! But, until the chareidim show that they are part and parcel of the population and shoulder their responsiblities, why should the rest of the tsibbur bent over backwards-as they will be kickied in the teeth anyway?