What they are against is going to the army because what goes on there is ??? (I have two brother in laws in the army, one of them in a charade unit)
Unfortunatly, that is not what they have communicated to the outside world (or the Israeli public). Let them come out and say “We are willing to go to the army as part of Nachal Charaidi (segregated with no Shmad, even L’Shitascha) at age 21”. (Wait, that is what the government is proposing).
Also most arabs are not against suicide bombers (read the PA school books and curriculum) and The dati Leumi movement is not judged but the price tag elements.
OK. Can’t argue with someone who believes everyone wants to blow him up. The settlers are judged that way, at least here in the states (I imagine the Charaidi world may not, due to their own issues with extremists as you point out).