Grow up Already: You missed the entire point of my post, so I will restate it. The non-Charaidi (including many Dati, including most of the populace (even if not those beholden to the Charaidim)) feel seriously threatened by the “power” of the Charaidim, and as the Charaidim exersize that power (by creating exclusionary towns such as Beitar and parts of Bait Shemesh, funding schools, special “funding” for large families which is almost exclusivly aimed at Charaidim, etc.) the non Charaidim are fighting back. This is what happens in a war, one side (usually) doesn’t roll over and agree to die. When you start up, sometimes you get kicked in the “ham and eggs”. The Charaidim should have expected this when they got dependent on government funding and started crowding others out.
I have relatives whose children learn in the school who had a girl spat on and they are quite clear (as the majority of the parent population in the school) that these are extremists that do not reflect the majority of the Charaidim.
No one claims they are not extremists. So what? Since they are not policed by the Charaidim, they (and by extension, the whole) are still a threat to non-Charaidim.
It’s like suicide bombers or price tag attacks. Until the group does something about them, the entire group gets painted as being (or harboring) extremism.