TheGoq I noticed this when i first became frum and joined the religoius, as you state about the trait of being interested in other’s affairs. (thats putting it nicely).
In one conversation my husband had with someone, the person said something funny and true. IF/When you are ever new to a community and go to shul just hang a sign around your neck :
This is my parnassa $ , how much I earn.
THis is my yichus….
And my name is….
Thats’ all you gotta do to fill their wondering minds.