Reply To: Would you ever withhold a ???

Men can get a “get” whenever they want to. They get what is called “heter meah rabbonim” and they are done

That is not totally accurate.

There are shady heter meah rabbanims that you can buy for about 50k (one of the frum magazines ran an article bashing it a year ago).

However, if a man cares about halacha, he will not rely on a shady one, and getting a real one is about impossible. Thus, if the man cares about halacha, and the wife wants to withhold the get- she is completely able to as much as he is.

I have heard that incidents of women withholding the get are as common as men withholding it. It is a bit funny that one never hears anything about it, and that I have never seen a single woman on a seruv listing in the Jewish Press. (I think we had a thread about that once.) http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/no-women-not-on-the-seruv-list In fact, looking at that thread, you can see that our MIA charlie hall said that statistic.