this is mainly directed at oomis and aries, but I welcome comments from anybody.
lets switch things around a bit.
a man wants to divorce his wife. She being a good bas yisroel has decided that she will not muddy things by going to secular court and will deal through bais din. Meanwhile, he has started spreading false rumors that she’s crazy and abuses the kids. unfortunately he is believed. For the “safety of the kids” he’s trying to get full custody. He throws in a few “facts” about how he was verbally abused for all these years. She stands to get almost nothing financially. (they rent an apartment so there’s no real assets to speak of)
This gem of a guy has already found someone else to marry. Only thing stopping him is the wife’s reluctance to accept the get. She knows that once she accepts it she is left with nothing and loses her kids.
Does she stand her ground, knowing it’s the only leverage she has to see her kids again? or does she accept the get and let him “move on” because you never ever ever play games with a get once the marriage is over?