personally I cannot imagine withholding. But in my experience my wife has been more than good to me so I think that would temper it.
The only case I can see is that I want to move to EY ‘some day’ and she is more American, than anyone I know.
But of course who is to say what will happen.
In some cases, suppose the husband wants to move to EY and the wife refuses.
Now he knows he will need a lot of finances to make this move.
So that is where it might get tricky.
Are you justified because you are moving to EY?