chalilavchas -“Is/should effort be made by those who put pressure on the victim’s family, to ask Mechila from the family whose lives were made miserable and were demonized and chased out of their community, causing the innocent victim’s family immeasurable emotional, financial, etc hardships?”
I don’t want to change the subject, but molestation is Not the only bad thing that goes on. And I’m not refering to internet and lack of Tzinius.
Back to the topic -I read on another Frum website -that the next Asifa they should take all the Rabbonim and others who defended the perp and attacked the victim and put them on a Dais. At this Asifa they should publically ask Mechila to the victims and/or pay for their costs that were involved.