akuperma: You don’t seem to get the point. From the point of view of this world, death may not be definitive (though it’s not that easy to see the world to come in regular life- our perspectives are limited in this world)- but still we cry when someone dies. Why? Why isn’t there a party? After all, they’re going to a better place!
The point is that as humans, death is sad and tragic, and you are coming across as supremely unfeeling. If you were to go and visit the families of those murdered in the Mercaz HaRav attack, for example, would you say, “Oh, this is normal happens all the time- just live with it”? My point with the Stalin quote (and obviously, it kills me to use Stalin as a positive example for my point) is that if one person was murdered, you’d feel all horrible (or even if one person just passed away of natural causes, you’d mourn), but if millions of people have been killed in pogroms, it’s just like “pogroms happen all the time.” You just come across as quite shockingly insensitive, even though I’m sure that’s not the way you intend to come off.