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emunah613
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It is normal to be hesitant about who you are going to be with for the rest of your life based on meeting this person for a few times for such a relatively short period of time! It is a great compliment to you that he wants to commit-many girls have the opposite problem! This is a huge decision, and no one should be allowed to force you until you feel ready. What many rabbonim say is that it is a good idea to take a break-and then evaluate how you feel. Years ago, I was in your exact same position and we took a break. While I was alone I asked myself a simple question-could I see myself without him in my life? My being without him made me realize his qualities which led me to realize that he is THE ONE, and here we are married 29 years. Looking back, I realize that all of the nisyonos that we were challenged with, and all of the crazy circumstances thrown our way, I am truly grateful to Hashem that He sent me such a capable partner. So if this fellow is a capable strong and intelligent and frum young man GRAB this opportunity! (They are a dying breed).