GAC – I wanted to share with you a thought I had about the issue of pictures and “stunning girls”. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It could be that in America there is a certain standard to being stunning, but I don’t know that every guy out there is looking for a “stunning” girl, but at least a girl who is attractive to him. I have a few woman friends where I live and I saw their husbands and I thought, “Eeewwww, she’s such a pretty girl, how could she marry such a nerdy looking guy?” I came to realize that a guy I might find attractive is not necessary the same as what my friend would find attractive and not only that, they might have decided that he was OK on first glance and then got to know him and really came to appreciate who he was, so the fact that he wasn’t tall, dark and handsome didn’t seem so important. I think a guy deserves to not invest excessive time and $ to go out with a girl who he would just say no to when she first comes in the room simply because she is totally NOT attractive to him, so why can’t he see that first and not say OK to a shidduch that has 0 potential. If he’s reasonable, then if she’s at least somewhat attractive to him (not stunningly beautiful) hopefully he’ll give a first date a chance. If he sets too high of a standard, then he’ll say no to every picture he sees and then the shadchanim will get the idea that he’s being too picky and act accordingly. I hope what I said makes sense. I do understand your concern about giving in your picture, but I don’t think it’s necessarily selling yourself short.
Hashem should send you your zivug b’korov.