Reply To: Shadchan speaks

Hi every one i am really sorry if i ofended anyone .I am just speaking from experience and as a shadchen and coaching boys and girls for quite a few years every one can use costructive critisizim even us shadchanim.

Ofcourse their are boys that have that comman sense or have a sister or sister in law or Mother that talks to them before and gives them the right advise.

One interesting story i had I redd a boy that is considerd a top boy that went to all the top yeshivos to a girl.Till i got a yes from the boy i had to use all my chochmos of shadchanis to get him to say yes .I finally got it and i was really prould of myself .They went out .

The next morning i call the boys side and the mother tells me .My son had a very good time ,the girl is a chushiva girl has toichen,and has a wonderful personality.My son would like a second date.

You can imagine i was excited on such a positive response.I call the girls side thinking ,boy are they going to be excited,the mother tells me NO WAY MY DAUGHTER IS NOT GOING OUT WITH HIM AGAIN ,i thought i was dreaming.I ask her ,what happened.

The mother didnt want to tell me but at the end she did.She tells me ,they came close to a toll booth and the boy tells my daughter ,watch and i will show you a shtick how you can get away without paying ,he did the shtick and it worked ,came another toll booth he did it again,My daughter asked him isnt it a chillul hashem and geneiva ,the boy started laughing like my daughter is from outer space.The mother tells me such a boy will end up in jail .I was in shock this was considerd a top boy .I called the mother and i told her they are not interested she asked me why ,and i told her.

DID I DO THE CORRECT THING FOR TELLING THE MOTHER ,I DONT KNOW .WHAT DO YOU THINK?