DY- I will blame the system, because the yeshivas and seminaries do not teach values to their students on a person to person basis. It is also unfair to only blame boys because there are plenty of unreasonable expectations among girls. Why is height a huge factor,when choosing to marry a guy? why do many girls with middos that leave alot to be desired think that they are entitled to marry only the biggest ben torah? Why do girls try desperately to marry the biggest masmid ,only to complain that she cant manage to run the house and raise the children on her own. My point is is that yeshivas and seminaries should guide their students what to do on a personal basis rather then say that one lofty lifestyle is ideal for everyone. This would cause people to begin looking for what they really need to be happy in life instead of trying to impress others with the top bochur,rich father-in-law,attractive wife, without their spouse possessing the qualities they need to be happy with their marriage.
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