monseygirl: it also sounds a little like you want to find a place that will be just like you. but from your decription, i dont know if thats possible: you want a super yeshivish derech, but you are also open minded, but you want a narrow minded school, yet you want to be able to be you and display your personality. not to imply that good, frum, yeshivish girls dont have personality c”v, but i don’t know of a school that is known to have a very yeshivish crowd and also endorses spunk, spirit and personality,IN ADDITION to having an intellectually stimulating program, without all the pressure. hmmm…lots of qualifications that you’ve got (which is good in a way, b/c it shows you know what you need/want) but to me, in my very own opinion, it sounds like you want something that may not be there and you may need to pick and choose from your list of criteria.
i would recommend doing research: call people in your area that have been in the schools you are interested in and get FIRST HAND INFORMATION. the cr may be good for general opinions, but you should definitely make your own calls.