I know lots of charedim. Not one would ever imagine that doing that was acceptable, much less mutar! Why didn’t the rabbis say something? The silence was deafening!!!
And Its time to end the excuses on it , Millions of dollars was spent on Asifas. Internet Bans, TV bands etc.
When Charedi Rabbis make a proclimation the Tzibur listens. They declare one must die or go to jail rather than go to the army and I am sure people will follow
How hard is it to say, We shall Banish the Sikarim who spit and curse 8 year old girls creating treamendous Chilul Hashem. They will not be allowed in our shuls , their children will not be allowed in our schools