1) Parents absolutely need to know their children since often their view and their child’s view of what they need are different
2) There is a shidduch crisis, but it’s largely self-inflicted by a general shift in attitude towards the shidduch process
3) Highly educated girls ARE a problem – it’s not their fault that the school system sets them up geared towards careers whilst at the same time being fed idealistic views on kollel. However this is not connected to the fact that the mesivta system results in a lack of secular education. I agree with the fact that a girl who feels she is more educated than her husband cannot respect him for who he is, however I must point out that I myself completed higher education, am currently studying towards a teacher’s degree, and am married to someone who never even completed his high school exams. Does it bother me? No. Baruch Hashem he runs a successful business and I am very proud of it.
In short, it’s peoples’ thinking that needs to change.