Naftush, perhaps not. I don’t pretend to know the answer. I was not dealing with the whole dating question at all.
My point in that post was just to explain why this taiva is different than all others and the idea of ‘Lets expose ourselves and our children to it and use that as a way to strengthen our self control’ does not apply.
I agree we need to arm ourselves and our children with self control so that we have the strength to overcome our taivos when we are exposed to the tuma’ah around us, but the tool is through other taivos. Not exposing ourselves to this taiva. Not by saying ‘let our young boys and girls go party together/go to school together/spend their lives together so they learn self control’.
Thats ‘Lifnei iver lo sitein michshal’ for children and ADULTS too!