For example, when I am at a kiddush and a parent is sitting at one of the (few!) tables with his/her 4 young children next to him/her, and there are MANY adults without seats (yes, older men/women and pregnant women), it makes me so sad. What kind of parents are you?? I (and my siblings) were never, ever, EVER was allowed sit at a kiddush or in shul unless EVERY single man/woman in the room had a seat or did not want to sit.
I wholeheartedly disagree with this. Kids are people too, and like food, and like going to a kiddush, just as adults do. The adults are responsible for making sure that the kids have access to the kiddush in a fair way, and that includes having seats. If there are not enough seats, that is the adults’ fault, and I think the adults should stand up to give the kids seats.
I get outraged when I see adults telling kids they don’t deserve to sit at the kiddush.