DaasYochid: mechilas kevodcha, this, along with many other comments in the coffee room, is FULL of lashon hara. those who speak of the aveiros of another are opening themselves up to being scrutinized in shmayim, H’yerachaim!
acharei-mos, kedoshim, emor I’ve always heard, better to err on the side of caution (true yiddishkeit)