Ladies(Morahmom,Shira…), Chazal openly said not like you.
D.Y.,real abuse is real abuse. Nevertheless, certain things which are considered abuse are really not. It just these days (because of yeridas ha’doros), the olam does not hold by it — you can’t really punish anybody or rebuke people.
Advise given to people on how to talk to their children is also tilted in the direction of excessive leniency. Again, because of yeridas ha’doros you can’t tell anybody what to do.