“i think i have a right to being sensitive about it without being told im overreacting”
You are absolutely correct, but you weren’t just being ‘sensitive about it’. If you’re prepared to say that someone asked a “horrible question”, you should be prepared to back that up (and imho you shouldn’t ever say something like that).
I am sincerely sorry that you have been in that position. Please be aware that because of this, you may be more likely to say something that you don’t necessarily mean. Btw, when I posted, your apology had not been approved yet; had I seen it, I would not have posted.