Da’as Yochid, in times of the Chazon Ish and even later, it was not a Chilul HaShem because the frei and the Mizrachi Israelis did not mind giving money to the Yeshivos. It is Chillul HaShem though to insist on staying in learning on other people’s money when they openly and strongly object to it.
Could Eshes Rabi Chanina ben Tradion be blamed for not stopping her husband? Think about it.
As for the insults, my definition is based on Gemorahs and Rishonim and Achronim.
Btw, do you know why the Satmar Chasidim do not go to the Kosel?