Better? Harder? Which world do u all live in?
Every person has their own nisyonos and each deals with it in their own unique way.
In my opinion the status of a “good boy” or “good girl” in any person looking for a shidduch is someone who works on themselves and generally fights rather than gives into their yetzer hara. For a shidduch good is only as good as you are.
The whole chinuch system/shidduch scene and marriage scene is in the pits more than ever now. Stereotyping doesn’t work any more. All we need is moshiach!