i really think it comes down to how old you are and how many boys actually get suggested to you. in a different post i wrote that a very prominent rav told me to date as much as possible. even if it wasnt the most shayach shidduch. maybe because i was a shy out of towner living in ny (shy around boys not necessarily personality) i got maybe 2 or 3 names a year. i wasnt a good dater and he probably wanted me to get experience. if you are part of the “younger” population and getting suggestions, its probably best to stand your ground and only date boys you feel are the most shayach for you. if you are old enough to date you are old enough to make your own decisions on how you want to do so. however, if you are part of the older crowd (24 or so and up) then its probably better to listen to your mother and date as much as possible. That being said, NEVER go into a date feeling in advance this is a waste of my time. it will cloud your judgement and keep you from being objective. if you know you dont want a particular something or someone, dont bother. your mother is not dating the boy, YOU are. if your still unsure what to do, ask your rav becuase here your only gonna get a bunch of mixed opinions and possibly get more confused! good luck!
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