Divorce is an absolute last last resort in all cases, to be avoided.
Kasha, this sentence is contradictory, as I think that is what you are relaying is.
In a gittin case, dayanim always need to be involved. “Your common sense” plays second fiddle to the “technicalities” of halacha.
Exactly. That is why there are so many divorces.
Tehcnicalities of halacha and in this case divorce, have nothing to do whether we apply them in a situation where one has used their common sense in effort to obtain it (the divorce).