Wolf, I’m not sure what your hockin in chink about.
clearheaded, the point of the R”Y is clear. Nor is it innovative or a bombshell. Even in abuse cases. You ensure the preservation of a Jewish marriage at all costs. Period. Divorce is an absolute last last resort in all cases, to be avoided. Sometimes that may not be possible, but that is always the goal.
In a gittin case, dayanim always need to be involved. “Your common sense” plays second fiddle to the “technicalities” of halacha.
The truth is that I made a mistake in saying that you can’t believe someone when they said they are being abused… I have no doubt that if she insists that she is being abused (if she is)
Look at the previous page. I cited the Noda B’Yehuda who says rather clearly you cannot accept her word alone that she is being abused. This is halacha l’maasa.
and insist on a divorce.
One cannot “insist” on something they are not halachicly entitled to.
happy123, no one disagrees that once divorced, the couple should receive full community support.