I agree with clearheaded, there is no black and white in these situations. However, one thing is forsure that when a couple gets divorced it’s usually not out of choice but rather a must. We need to encourage those that are divorced and treat them regularly and not be so quick to judge them in a negative why. We can’t think we are smarter than them and greater than them and give them our ideas that they should have not gotten divorced.
People are so quick to take the honor to be Mesader Kedushin but not so quick to be mesadir a get. People are afraid to encourage people to get divorced when appropriate and if not done it can be detremental to them. Lets stop ourselves from creating any further stigma that there is already and be encouraging to those that need it.