If you get into technicalities here, you’ll never get finished. I think we need to use the fifte S”A here and that means if there is physical, emotional and verbal abuse in the marriage then a person needs to get a divorce ASAP.
Otherwise, one can try to work things out and if there are no satisfactory results, one needs to realize that that is a challenge from Hashem to make them grow spiritually.
I know someone is going to ask me “what about abuse maybe one can grow spiritually from that situation as well?”
Living with an abuser is not called living, period. Abusers take away the chius from a person so that not only can’t a person grow, but they are not living either.
The only way one can grow from an abusive marriage is to become strong and have the courage to end such a terrible situation.