Smartcookie, a good husband, a good father and someone I get along with isn’t enough for me. That’s a good friend or good roomate with biological ties.
I wanted to marry someone I loved
I had more to add to that. In addition to a good wife, mother and someone I get along with (and loved — that was important to me too), there was also the issue of whether or not we agreed on certain basic hashkafic principles.
While there are some hashkafic principles where it’s not as important that we agree (Eeees and I don’t agree on everything hashkafically), there are others items that are very vital and disagreement on these matters would probably have precluded us from residing together peacefully as a married couple.
The Wolf