The court hears all sides of an argument and does not assume a gender bias in the decision process. There are women who for legitimate reasons lose their cases. Feminist conspiracy is utter nonsense.
Abuse in the frum community is a very real concern. Victims of abuse lose their sense of self and can’t fight back. Therefore when the partner experiences abuse they are powerless to protect their own children as well. The abused partner sees their child being abused but does nothing to stop the abuse.
It is therefore advisable in situations of pervasive patterns of abuse (as opposed to a once in twenty years explosion) that the marriage end. IT IS IN THE CHILD’S BEST INTEREST AS WELL. Children who experienced abuse end up angry at both the abuser and the abused parent who stood there and watched the child be abused and did NOTHING. Even if the marriage ends after 30 years, the child was still not cared for during their time of need.
PLEASE, if you find out after engagement about patterns of abuse in the family (discussions about changing your weight, looks, dress, threats, etc.), BREAK YOUR ENGAGEMENT. Do it for your own sake and for the sake of the children who you will put into such an environment. UNLESS…your chosson/kallah demonstrates actions consistent with breaking away from the patterns of abuse.
Broken engagements are 1,000,000 times better than broken marriages.