“I’m not sure what is relevant about the fact a woman cannot remarry her first husband if she ever married someone else subsequently. “
I only quoted that because the posuk says if she marries a second husband and he HATES her, he may divorce her. The rest of the posuk was not specifically relevant to this issue, only th idea that a man could divorce his wife out of hatred for her (no specifics of why, just that he does).
I am not a big fan of even the idea of divorce. I think a couple should always try hard to work through their issues. But sometimes, there is nothing there for them to work WITH, much less through. Some people are not ready to get married, are not right for each other, and do not yet grasp what a true commitment means. In that case, I don’t think that two lives (more, if there are children involved) should be ruined just for the sake of staying together. BTW, the permanent emotionally damaging effect that a bad marriage has on the kids where constant arguing and/or abuse is involved, is far worse than the ultimate effect of a breakup. Many kids have expressed the relief they felt when their constantly arguing parents finally divorced. It’s a tragedy all around.