When he is telling and encouraging her to think of her career as more important then anything else that is pushing, and like I said, I never heard of a feminist who would marry a man, who would NOT do that.
That’s not pushing. That’s a woman saying “I want to do XYZ” and her husband supporting it.
Pushing would be a man saying to his wife “I want you to go through medical school” even if she doesn’t want to. “;;;;;;;
Supporting would be supporting whatever she wanted to do, pushing
could also be(besides what you said)trying to steer someone into something that she may want to do but need a “push” to get going.
It may not be ‘HARD’ pushing but it most certainly is pushing.
If a someone considering marrying a feminist ‘supported’ her in following Torah more and feminism less, she and her feminist friends would most certainly claim he was ‘holding her back’.
They most likely would tell her to break it off or at least to give it to him for supposedlty ‘seeing women only as objects’.
This clash one way or another could easily cause a break up.