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I heard from a well known shadchan in Lakewood who has made plenty of shidduchim that in all his experience,70% of girls said no within the first 8 dates. After 8 dates, 80% of the time it was the girl that said no. Let’s stop blaming the boys. Yes there are some picky boys, but there are just as many picky girls out there. Perhaps the guys get blamed because they can go out with 50 girls in a year while for a girl it takes longer than a year to get that many dates. The girls are just as much to blame for this whole crisis as the boys. Let’s stop with the blame.
& I shall add a shocking but accurate assertion to what this Shadchan said:- Simply because these girls are being so picky, many of the boys eventually get so frustrated, that they simply tragically end up going out with & marrying a Shiksa.
The vast majority of boys who end up marrying a Shiksa but came from observant & even tradditional homes, would much rather marry a Jewish girl, but when they keep being turned down, frustration leads to other consequences and an easy to catch shiksa who isn’t being so picky.
So when will the Bais Yaakov movement begin giving this timely message to their girls, telling them to be realistic & cease being picky JAPS?